Being Fair with others may be the easiest way of responding to some people, while for others is just the most difficult thing to do. Its also very difficult to be in the middle of situations where you see that attitude of just being unfair, but sometimes you have to appreciate the goodness of living in between those circumstances, as well as you appreciate the blessing of being around of people that really know how to play Fair in life.
We have two alternatives when we are in front of unfairness circumstances and we are not the victim. We either correct the person who is unfair, or try to help the recipient - who receive the mistreat . Either ways make us as part of the whole behavior game. On the other hands, in the long term, we will notice two other alternatives. We either learned and copied the same attitude, or learned how not to repeat the same pattern of behavior. So, in this last case, we wisely turned something bad in a very good learning experience. Its wise to choose well, when discerning what to learn from others.
In fact, If I ask you, where are you, in reference with these subject? What would your answer be? Any Experience at all?
How can you take it easy, when you are in the middle of a situation where you see unfairness?. Think about how many times, we are sad or angry, asking God to listen to us, while he is still listening to the other version, of our story. The other side of the line is plenty of feelings, reasons and emotions too. We are not the only person who need attention and comfort. It's not easy for any one. Perhaps, some times we can imagine about the other part of the equation. When we are sad, or hurt in some way, because of any difference in a relationship with another person, we can be sure that on the other side of the line there is no happiness, joy or peace.....There might be different emotions, reasons, perceptions and attitudes from ours, but nothing really good either.
As human beings, we have so much to learn and practice about relationship, that the time we are awake is not enough during the day, and less when we are so busy to cope with the daily routine and the long "To Do List" that everybody have.
Many research shows the benefits of meditations and the blessings of having time of contemplation. Now, we have to understand that there are many ways to practice both disciplines. In order to find answers that help you to be fair in any situation, you need to meditate and contemplate them in an integral way, not only from your only perspective, from what you want or you would like. Its important to consider others point of view, even a moral perspective,and then, reflect where the differences are and how you can come across some solutions.
There are things that sounds different but they are so alike. Also, there are things that are different but they sounds alike....So to be fair in our responds, we shall take a little of time to really find the best answer. Some references on this subject, teach us that the following attitudes do help;
- Listen to others opinion and needs on the time they are expressed; But make sure you ask this question to your self. Are you truly listening to the other person?
- Don't Judge anyone. Do what you think is the right thing to do in the specific situation to change only circumstances, since every one is responsible to change by their own resolution. Ask for help if you are not sure what to do.
- Treat others, so you want to be treated.
- Always, Think about the reflection of your actions.
- Justice cannot be for one side alone, but must be for both. (Author; Eleanor Roosevelt).
- If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner. (Author; Nelson Mandela).
- Let us not seek the Republican answer nor the Democratic answer but the right answer. (Author: John F. Kennedy).
- These men ask for just the same thing, fairness, and fairness only. This, so far as in my power, they, and all others, shall have.(Author; Abraham Lincoln)
Keep Walking...you are not alone!
